What is a friend to you? Is it a person in which you can chat, share your concerns with, bounce ideas… A person who is going to be there no matter what. A person who you know will tell you the truth no matter if you are wealthy, poor, in control or wondering in life or trying to figure it out what you want to do? A friend is much more than a Facebook friend, don’t you think? A Facebook friend many times is a number. True friends are not numbers; they are just your friend.
Let me ask you this… Did you accept people you don’t know to be your friend on Facebook lately? Maybe on Instagram? Twitter? Tumbler? Let me ask you a better question — Did you clean your Facebook lately after doing a critical analysis of your “friendships” in cyberspace? My guess is that you probably did the first and didn’t do the second.
Well, I did the second about one year ago. I went back to my Facebook accounts (plural) and cleaned the crap out of folks who didn’t belong in there. The reason? Because they were not my friends. They were a number not a true friend. They were Facebook friends. A true friend, as least to me, is somebody I have some affinity with. As I wrote previously, a friend is a person in which I can chat, share my concerns with, bounce ideas… A person who is going to be there no matter what. If they don’t have these qualities… Maybe they shouldn’t be in my Facebook friends list no matter what the computer says.
I personally don’t get offended and frankly don’t care if my Facebook friends like my postings or not or put comments in my wall. A true friend has reasons to comment, be indifferent or simply be silent for reasons I don’t need to know. Not everything I post should be liked or have a comment by a friend just because it was shared in social media! What I am saying is that likes and comments don’t always equal friendships! But in the American technopoly, likes and comments are “king,” as social media algorithms take into account “interaction” as a variable in calculating your influence on-line. How fake!
Clicking the like button or putting a comment down in one’s wall can have more connotations than simply linking what you posted or commenting on a great idea. Most human beings don’t really operate that logically. The illogical plays a large role in this whole process of internet communication. Look for trends. If “Facebook friend” John Jones is constantly praising you for your efforts in a genuine way — Premium him. If he is trying to gain something from you, you will know it. If you have a foe among your “friends,” unfriend him. It isn’t worth having the numbers if in the end, they are really not your friend. I’ver learned this the hard way.