Do No Evil…

Do No Evil…

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“Now finally, all of you should be likeminded and sympathetic, should love believers, and be compassionate and humble, not paying back evil for evil or insult for insult but, on the contrary, giving a blessing since you were called for this, so that you can inherit a blessing” (1 Peter 3:8-9).  

Under any circumstances, do no evil. In this life, we must live a life for the Lord not for men. God is pretty clear about how He wants us to behave and live our lives. Acting evil in either words spoken or behaviors is to be forbidden. Don’t insult others — Be sympathetic, be compassionate, and humble, as Peter has taught us. In every opportunity, do what you can do make others feel good and above all, obey God’s law. The former is our task.

The world is full of injustice, mean spirited people and arrogant individuals who think they are wonderful. Be different today! Be a Christian! Be the salt of the world and by your actions… be a testimony of the love of Jesus Christ to the nations. We need to show others that only God saves and is merciful. Without God, we aren’t anything.

That God be glorified!

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On Marriage, Sex, and Family.

On Marriage, Sex, and Family.

Leviticus 19:32: “Stand up in the presence of the elderly, and show respect for the aged. Fear your God. I am the LORD…” 1 Peter 5:5: “Likewise, you who are younger, be subject to the elders. Clothe yourselves, all of you, with humility toward one another, for “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” Timothy 5:1-3: “Never speak harshly to an older man, but appeal to him respectfully as you would to your own father. Talk to younger men as you would to your own brothers. Treat older women as you would your mother, and treat younger women with all purity as you would your own sisters. Take care of any widow who has no one else to care for her.”

We need to respect those who are older than us who possess wisdom. Listen to Dr. Beaty. He knows what he is doing. To God be the glory!

Speaking Your Mind With Reason Is Critical In Life.

Speaking Your Mind With Reason Is Critical In Life.

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Let me tell you this straight: Your end is near if you decide to stop sharing what you know and learning new things due to fear of retaliation or simply because of arrogance. I am not aware of any quality professional who lacks generosity and/or avoids engaging in timely professional development. Life, my friends, isn’t about you or me. Life is de facto about others and how we share and learn overtime. Don’t get me started — if you think that you know everything under the sun, you are heading towards imminent disaster and a huge awakening in the near future. Nobody knows everything… not even you. We need to be prepared, thats for sure. We need to keep learning and sharing.  We need lifelong learning! We need lifelong sharing!  Be ready to speak your mind with reason once is a while as the former is certainly critical to your success in life.

All that I ask you is: Be reasonable. We already live in a world that is so unreasonable.  We most definitely need to be vocal about the former because acting without reason is dangerous and always backfire. In fact, being unreasonable is both dangerous and oppressive as it can silence the voices of people who might otherwise change the world for the better. Our goal is to make things better not worse in this world. It is to carry and advance honorable agendas in a timely fashion. Be patient, be kind, be loving and strive to be great in the eyes of others. Speak your mind with reason and defend what is right and honorable once in a while. Remember: Being impartial or overly judgmental of others, especially if your life depends on the same people you criticize, isn’t wise. One thing is for sure — Your goals are not that different than mine. it is to move forwards in life by being a reasonable person. Is it that complicated? I don’t think so.

There are many ways people can speak their minds reasonably. In this life, I will share with you three ways I speak my mind with reason. Here we go.

  1.  I write. Well, the former shouldn’t come a surprise to anybody, right? I write my blog on a daily basis in order to communicate my thoughts to the masses with a tough of reason. Writing allows me to speak my mind in symbolically through language. What is my overall goal you may be asking. My goal is simply to speak my mind to others so that engagement takes place as I believe that sharing what I know and hearing what others have to say is a critical to my own professional development and with succeeding in life. This is my advice to you — You should de the same and write daily. Writing is a wonderful tool to tell others about how you feel, as long as it is done with reason. It is a way to keep yourself sane in this insane world that we live in.
  2. I photograph. Drawing with lights allow us to speak our minds visually. Differently from writing, a well taken photograph is art in itself with no symbolism. We all need art to be reasonable. Life is art and without question… life without art isn’t life as we know it. The whole idea of being critical is tied to the field of photography. Have you ever met a professional photographer who wasn’t critical of his/her photography work? Are you critical of your photography? Tom Petty once said, “Sell your computer and buy a guitar.” I say, “Sell your computer (or guitar) and buy a DSLR!”
  3.  I speak. Speaking in public allows me to speak my mind orally. When was the last time that you delivered a public speech? If you haven’t done one in a while, I would strongly suggest that you make plans to deliver one by next week. In order to speak your mind with reason, you need to be versed in public speaking. I bet Dale Carnegie would agree with me on this one! Get yourself a good public speaking training program and start developing your repertoire of speeches so that you also have the ability to change the world for the better by speaking and being reasonable! We need more people like you, that’s foe sure.

Your end is near if you decide to stop sharing what you know and learning new things due to fear of retaliation or simply because of arrogance. I am not aware of any quality professional who lacks generosity and/or avoids engaging in timely professional development in this world. If you think that you know everything under the sun, you are heading towards imminent disaster and a huge awakening in the future. Nobody knows everything… not even you. Be patient, be kind, be loving… take time to write, photograph, and speak so that you also have a chance to speak your mind with reason. Are you ready for the challenge? I hope so.

Keep Calm And Trust God.

Keep Calm And Trust God.

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There is no need to worry, put pressure on yourself, or be constantly seeking approval from others. The former only causes anxiety, frustrations and unnecessary worry which you really don’t need in your life. Keep calm and trust God. Everything in this life happens for a reason. Remember this: The Lord shall fight for you. Therefore, you shall hold your peace, Exodus 14:14. You have no control of your life. I have no control of mine and I bet you that your parents and friends don’t have control of theirs, either.

Live a life of no regrets making your own decisions about your future. People, for the most part, are egoistic and self serving.  Don’t live your life based on how they live theirs. Don’t ever quit trying to make somebody laugh or making a friend smile. Life is too short for anyone to hold anger and wanting to call every shot without the blessings from God. Failing to smile and trust God can make you depressed. Why would you do this to yourself? You deserve so much better.

Keep calm and trust God. Be careful not to let your pride go ahead of the wishes and wants of God. You don’t live for you. I don’t live for me — We both live for God. Remember, the Lord can help you to overcome anything you just have to trust Him. As Jake Provance once said, “When purpose feels questionable, your strength fades.”  What are your reasons? Whatever they are, you will be in a better position if you make the decision to put your faith in the Creator. Why would you make your life more complicated than what it needs to be?

The person in this photo is Ms. Mignon Clyburn, the head of the Federal Communications Commission, a very clever woman from South Carolina. I didn’t ever make plans to meet her yet we met and had a great quick chat. You don’t know exactly what will happen in your life therefore, trusting God is imperative both for you and me. The blessings that God has planned for you will appear when you least expect, as long as you allow God to bless you in this world.

Be slow to anger, be happy and forgiving. Be and act like the salt of the world. If you are a true Christian, this is what you do on a daily basis. By the way, you don’t need to be your worst critic. All you need to do is to be reasonably critical for your own good and trust God. Don’t forget to keep calm. The good God is in control. God loves you and me. Make sure that you love God in return and do what you can to glorify Him. Life isn’t about you and me but about God.

Life can be filled with frustrations and annoyances. You need to learn how to control your emotions and trust that God will take care of you and your circumstances. The former isn’t to say that you shouldn’t work or do what you can to better your circumstances. What it does say, however, is that God will take care of His people , as long as you follow God’s commands. God loves work. Never forget this important truth.

Keep calm and trust God. It is all that you can do, I say.

Billionaires Don’t Have The Best Interest Of The People.

Billionaires Don’t Have The Best Interest Of The People.

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Let me ask you this — Do you really think that a billionaire really cares about what happens in our lives? Please people, let’s get real. Very few (if any) billionaire has the best interest of anyone regardless of what anybody tells you. Billionaires like money… a lot of it. They don’t like you and I. In fact, most of these people make fun of you (and me) for not having what they have. Life is always about them, not you or me. How dare you disagree! Look, billionaires would rather make investments in robotics in order to replace labor (you) with machines than to invest in you. It is all about the money people. The goal? It is to demoralize you and make your life a living h^#$ so you keep your mouth shut. Why? Probably because billionaires don’t really care about you. Do you really think that they care about your family?

Listen carefully: You might as well give kisses of goodbye to anyone who opposes the billionaire agenda. Billionaires will destroy public education (both K-12 and post secondary, higher education) because the former won’t make them trillionaires. Let’s not forget that college professors tend to think critically about things, much like journalists… especially investigative reporters. What is the best thing that a ruthless billionaire dictator could do to eliminate his opposition? Or shall we say, offer some checks and balances to this whole mess — defund and/or demonize the opponent without any mercy. What can they (the regular people) do anyways, many are thinking these days. The unions are weak, the laws protect the wealthy and strong economically… Reality. The poor have no white blood cells to fight back my potent virus, billionaires know. It is time to attack! Maybe, our commander in chief is simply using Robert Green’s  15th law of power, “Crush your enemy totally, show no mercy.” The time is now — Let’s conquer everything in the world and screw everyone else because we can. I bet quite a few billionaires have had this conversation already. Starve them! Give them houses and an insecure job! Then, take their jobs away and buy their houses for cheap right after! The goal is global domination but it starts at home.

We live in a cruel world full of aspiring trillionaires who really don’t care about you and your family or mine. The scary part is that some now have the authority to literally destroy our lives in a very short period of time. Brothers and sisters, be aware! The world that your your children and mine will grow up in will be very ugly… It will be full of injustice, contrasts, and a lot of poverty. I am seeing a disaster coming to this country because of extremism, billionaire breeds extremism and a sense of self worth.  Billionaires don’t have the best interest of the people, that’s for sure. Don’t be fooled.

 

 

 

Be Thankful, Always.

Be Thankful, Always.

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Be thankful, always. Celebrate what you have and give thanks to God because life in its essence is about the memories that you collect and the moments that you will remember with nostalgia forever. Why make things complicated and make life more difficult than what it should be. I say live a simple life and without question… live your life to the fullest because our days on this earth are counted and temporary. There is no need to build four businesses, working 17 hours a day and taking no vacation. Not even the mighty government cares about what you spend and live for. Be wise: Live small, focus on your job, and be thankful, aways.

My life is much more precious than any award I’ve received for doing professional work. If we deeply investigate our own circumstances, in the end friends… we are all very average and sometimes below average in what we do and how we live. Everything is meaningless in this life as the good God has once said in Ecclesiastics 1. If you die tomorrow, how many people will be attending your funeral? Maybe a couple dozen if you are lucky… At mine, I can tell you, won’t be many and I am fine with it. I don’t live a beat the Jone’s type of life and find elitism to be both fickle and unnecessary but that’s just me.

There are so many ways that we can live a thankful life. In this article, I will share with you three ways I live my thankful one.

  1. I say no to elitism. There is no room for elitism in my life book. It is very difficult to be thankful to God and live life thinking about money and what others think of you. Maybe you can live your life this way. I can’t. When I was 14 years old, I chose to live a simple life, despite of my family upbringings and recommendations. In the end, what a person brings to the table is so much more important than what a small group of preppy kids who think they are wonderful have to offer. Get a life, man. A polo shirt, fine wine and a pair of sneakers will never define who I am. I don’t need to wear or appear wealthy to have value in this world. Life is to be lived for God not men. Elitism is a cancer that often backfires, especially if you want to live a thankful life, always.
  2. Play with your kids. There is nothing more satisfying to me than seeing my daughter grow up. Playing ponies with daddy, cabana at night, reading books and occasionally going to a bouncy place means the world to me.  All these former activities either costs us no money or are very cheap to pursue. Having fun with your kids is a blessing that isn’t tied to monetary power. It is a good way to be thankful, always. Let me share something with you, before I forget — make sure that you marry and have kids. You will thank me later.  Playing with your kids is perhaps one of the very best ways for anybody to grow thankful and happy, I think. Smile at your child before bed. I bet you will enjoy the moment.
  3. Tell others you are thankful for them. You don’t make your life great. Others do in fact with a touch of God. Moral of the story? Make sure you tell others that you are thankful for having them. If you really analyze your life in detail, you will quickly realize that the impact that others have on you are much higher than the impact that you have on yourself. We are members of only one race — the human race. Human beings were made to live in community and celebrate with others. Language and societal symbols are two means that we use to live a thankful life with others. Practice the former every time you can and do what you can to get better at it. Nobody is perfect and we all can improve. Make someone happy tomorrow. This is your duty and mine.

Be thankful, always. Celebrate what you have and give thanks to God because life in its essence is about the memories that you collect and the moments that you will remember with nostalgia forever. I say live a simple life and without question… live your life to the fullest. There are so many ways that we can live a thankful life — I say no to elitism, play with my kid, and tell others I am thankful for them once in a while but that’s just me. Don’t forget… Make someone happy. This is your duty and mine in this world.

The Amite Street Dilemma! Decisions, Decisions, Decisions…

The Amite Street Dilemma! Decisions, Decisions, Decisions…

Jackson.pngIn your life, you are going to eventually hit a bifurcation point in your professional career which in turn will force you to make what we call, “A life decision.” It will go a little bit like this — You can’t go right, left deviates from the plan, you may need to hold in order to go forward… Long story short: Many times, the best thing to do is to just wait and reflect. Just remember that the prize awaits you at the end of the tunnel so embrace the unknown adventure and celebrate the journey that the good God has given to you.

RED LIGHT! Two minutes and twenty five seconds of waiting and then going… Calm down and be patient. Life is about giving time to time and seeing what the Lord wants you to do next. Don’t be emotional and make an thoughtless decision. We are all different. Lets celebrate that! I am a college professor, you might be an accountant or perhaps a physician. Some of you might work in real estate and I know that many of you work with your hands on a daily basis. Regardless of how you make a living, never lose track of what is the most important of all — loving God and identifying the “Amite Street” moments you will eventually have in your life’s journey.

Decisions, decisions, decisions… this is what life is really all about! We make them everyday for better or for worse. Perfecting our decisions is a skill set that we all need to master and reflect constantly. Don’t forget: Living is decision making. My day is all about making decisions. I am sure that your day isn’t that different. Our days are both about making the very best decisions we need to make under the circumstances we are in. How many life changing decisions have to made today? I am sure that you have made as many tough decisions as I have had to make. Keep making them! Learn to see how close you are to “Amite Street.”

The beauty of life depends on it.

God Takes Care Of His People.

God Takes Care Of His People.

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If God is with you, who can be against you? Nobody can, I say. Don’t worry brother or sister, the good God is in control and won’t leave you alone in the darkness. Everything that happens in this life happens for a reason and there is nothing that you and me can do about it. The love that God has for us is not only contagious but literally impossible to describe. We all need the grace of God as we don’t deserve the air that we breathe and the food that we eat. Who is perfect among you? Nobody is, I scream! Life is about development, mercy and having a smile on your face. The Lord takes care of His people, that’s for sure. He puts people in your path to teach you lessons and to develop yourself for Godly service. Are you doing what God has asked you to do?

Don’t be jealous of others because God’s people complement them. Be patient because your time of glory will come. Life isn’t about getting attention all the time. Sometimes, God takes care of His people by making them live a low profile life. Nobody is perfect and sometimes, things are not what they seem. Be careful to not hold hate or discord. Most people are self-centered, egoistic and quick to temper.  Be different! Be a true Christian and chose love over hate. It is amazing what God can do in your life when you make Christ your priority not people. It is in fact shocking what comes your way when you don’t even expect or plan for it.  God will open your eyes to the beauty of this world if you ask Him to. God takes care of His people — In the morning, in the afternoon, in November or during the Summer months. Learn to trust God, live a life of no regrets, and make an effort to see the world with positive eyes. In the end, you will quickly realize that in this world, the Lord is in control not you or me.

There are a lot of ways in which God takes care of His people. In this article, I will share with you three ways God does take care of me and you.

  1. He puts extraordinary people in our paths. A caring God takes care of His people many times by showing to His children that only God is supreme. Nobody is always victorious and along your life journey… you will eventually find other people who have more talent than you. Don’t take the former to heart but as an opportunity to better learn about yourself and be humble. Only God is perfect. I am not perfect. You are not perfect either. God cares about you and me. You are to focus on Him not me and you.
  2. He humbles us by making us different. Simplicity is the name of the game, folks. As a young boy, I was trained in a polymath school where we all had to learn art, science, sports (golf and chess), and linguistics. We were trained to excel in these four areas at the highest level. I chose music and theatre, chemistry, golf/chess, and latin. Others chose dance and drawing, mathematics, soccer and greek. I know latin, you know greek; I make the first move and dominate the chess center board… you close the argument using pure Aristotelian thought.  We both complement what we do by doing what we do best. I am not better than you. You are not better than me. We, however, are better than most. I say, “synergy.” A united people can never be divided.
  3. He performs miracles when you least expect. If you are in hell, don’t stop… keep moving. There must be a very good reason for it. God takes care of His people. The miracles that the good God performs many times can’t be described or understood. Life is a miracle. This former fact, in itself, is worth celebrating the mercy and love of God. What are the odds one can get a hole in one in golf? 1 in 12500. How likely is it? Very unlikely. Do you know how tough it is to live and learn in another country whose language isn’t your own? The mannerisms, culture, values, etc… It isn’t that simple but God opens peoples’ eyes to see reality through love and care. God takes care of His people. Look, sooner or later you will experience a miracle. Ok, I say you have a 1 in 12 chance to see a miracle being performed in your life. Why 12? I don’t know let me see — Jesus had twelve disciples; There are 12 inches in a foot; There are 12 days of Christmas; In English, twelve is the largest number that has just one syllable… Thank you the#FACTsite.com. You were my miracle today. Tomorrow, I might be yours.

If God is with you, who can be against you? Nobody can, I say. God takes care of His people. It is amazing what God can do in your life when you make Christ your priority not people. God takes care of His people by putting extraordinary people in your path. He also humbles us to make us different for our own sake. He performs miracles when you least expect it. Keep your eyes wide open. God takes care of His people, all the time.

Do You Want To Succeed? Be Disciplined.

Do You Want To Succeed? Be Disciplined.

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If your goal is to become a successful professional, you need to learn how to be more disciplined. Being able to obey the rules of society and your company at all times, understand the codes of behavior of your community and country, and correct disobedience when necessary will make you into a superstar. We all need to keep course and do our very best in order to be disciplined and above all — fair.

Life is all about being able to be reasonable and doing things right. Don’t wait for the perfect moment to be totally disciplined to start being more disciplined. Be disciplined now and accept the fact that we are we all a work in progress, people. If you think you aren’t, I strongly suggest that you reconsider your thoughts and surrender to the fact that you are not wonderful. Only God, my friends, is wonderful. You are not God — You have faults as much as I do.  So, be quiet and live life to the fullest yet accepting that you are not a saint or the next pope. Life is all about development and understanding. Strive for discipline, though.

There are a number of ways one can be more disciplined in this world. I am not going to attempt to explain all the ways that we can achieve this remarkable goal. However, I will show you three ways that you can become more disciplined in this world.

  1. Don’t think you are God. As I said early on in this article, nobody is God. Therefore, don’t act like or think that you are one. Are you omnipotent, omnipresent? All powerful? The answer is no, obviously. Do yourself a favor, be humble, understanding and forgiving. God is watching over your path and heart. Would you like to be outside of God’s blessing? Not me.  Don’t think you are God, nobody is God. Keep living your life simple and recreating yourself once in a while for the better. Ask God for directions. He will give it to you.
  2. Don’t procrastinate.  If you can do something today, do it. Don’t wait until tomorrow. The former can be a cancer in your developing as a discipline superstar. Those who choose to get things done eventually tend to eventually be fired or be laid off. Don’t be like them. Be yourself and do what you can to keep learning and living. Discipline pays off. Not everybody actually has it. Be a person of character and strive to be more disciplined. I can almost guarantee you that you won’t regret your decisions. Those who have ears to hear need to listen.
  3. Be open to criticism.  If you can’t listen, you will never be disciplined enough to make the required changes to achieving success in this world. There is no way out of this. We all can improve and learn, hands down. If you choose not to, sooner or later — you will put yourself out of business naturally. Consequently, the former would then make your chances of being good or shall we say — great in society very small. Closing yourself off from criticism is likely to screw up your future forever, even if you are good in what you do.   We live in tough times. Don’t handicap yourself by avoiding constructive criticism given by others once in a while. It ain’t worth it.

If your goal is to become a successful professional, you need to learn how to be more disciplined. Being able to obey the rules of society and your company at all times, understand the codes of behavior of your community and country, and correct disobedience when necessary will make you into a superstar. Don’t think you are God, though. Nobody is God. Not even you. Don’t procrastinate. Be open to criticism. We live in tough times. Don’t handicap yourself by avoiding constructive criticism given by others once in a while. It ain’t worth it. Give yourself a chance of winning by being open minded and sensitive about the need to be disciplined.

 

Family Should Always Come First, After God.

Family Should Always Come First, After God.

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We have the duty to live our lives for God and our families. God, above all, is to be glorified and always be made a priority. The smile of a child is definitely something we need to take into account when deciding where you need to live. Is your daughter happy living in the state of Texas? Is your son excited and making friends near the city of Chicago, Illinois? These are important questions that we all need to think about and consider when making a decision where to live long term.

Don’t rush, think and analyze. Be critical and examine all the available options. What do you have to lose by being picky? Nothing, I would say. Family should always come first after God. What is God telling you? Listen, test, and be a leader that fears the lessons and teachings of God. When we were kids, we thought like kids. Now that we are grown men and women, we need to think accordingly. Life is always about others not yourself or me. Life is about loving God and doing what is best for our family, I say.

There are too many ways we can love God and do what we can for our children. In this article, I will share with you three ways in which we can love God and advance the wishes of our kids. Let’s maybe get started.

  1. Make God a priority in your life.  Go to church, choose to lead a bible study, be a man or women of character. If you can help the poor financially, do so. By giving we also receive. By praying we definitely learn to love. In this life, God takes precedence. We need to think about life in terms of what God wants us to do, not according to our wishes. Make God your main reason to live and celebrate. In the end, you won’t regret it.
  2. Listen To Your Family. If you are a father or a mother who loves your children, you can attest that listening is perhaps the very best way of making your family second to God.  What are they telling you? You must learn how to listen to them by asking them the tough questions. Nobody is perfect, including your family. Only God is perfect and we need to accept that. This is why God comes first and we all come second. Learn to critically listen to what your heart is telling you.
  3. Pray hard and often. You heard that right. Never forget that God communicates with us through prayer. Having a regiment of prayer is an absolute necessity in this world as it helps us to better connect with God. Prayer also helps with family bonding. Pray hard and often. Family members, listen carefully: It is only through prayer that God will show his glory to you and your family. Be with God and pray. This is your duty.

We have the duty to live our lives for God and our families. God, above all, is to be glorified and always be made a priority. Life is always about others not yourself or me. Life is about loving God and doing what is best for our family, I say. Here is what I recommend. Make God a priority in your life. Listen To Your Family. Pray hard and often.Go to church, choose to lead a bible study, be a man or women of character.  God comes first and we all come second. Never forget: Be with God and pray. This is your duty.

Understand First — Judge Second.

Understand First — Judge Second.

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Blind judgements are overrated. Understanding is a necessity. A world without reason and goodwill will only result in chaos and misunderstandings. You don’t want to live life this way. The principle behind treating others well is quite simple. We need to understand people first and judge them second. Isn’t that simple? We can agree to disagree. In which ways? In this life, some say tomayto — others, they say tomahto. Do you say Eether or eyether. I say neether do you say nyther? The reality of the matter is that we are very different from each other often and that’s okay. The former is precisely what makes living on this earth so interesting and unpredictable. Despite our differences, we have many similarities.

Forcing beliefs on others is a dangerous practice because we all have our own unique set of experiences. The moment you try to force others to believe what you want them to believe, an eminent defeat is heading your way. Ideas and words can be used to convince people about a topic or a thing. Forcing anyone to see the world the way you do without taking the time to better understanding their circumstances will backfire. Be careful with assuming things about others without really knowing what they know or their circumstances. Preconceived judgements just makes you less noble and more difficult to get along with in the long run. You need to look at life for what life is. Trying to live a life of fantasy or a make believe one will only hurt you in the long run. Be very careful when misjudging anyone who can really help you to better understand yourself.

Listen carefully: Nobody is perfect in this life, not even you or me. Only God is perfect. Don’t forget this: God is paying attention.  Are you giving yourself a chance to be helped by God by being reasonable with others? I am. I hope you are, as well. You can’t always get what you want. That is just a fact. Complaining and blaming others for your misfortunes and lack of luck will not change the fact that we need to work with others in order to operate with distinction. We need to keep trying and believing and avoid judging too quickly. Act that way, if you please.

Be extremely careful to not lose the good people around you because of pride. If someone is helping you out, you have to be careful not to mock them or make them angry — or make left hand judgements directly or indirectly. What am I trying to say to you is that you can’t keep having fun forever without control, judge and think that life will run like a disorganized mess forever. Eventually the fun will stop and reality will be made transparent. Remember: One man’s trash is another man’s treasure. Never forget that.

Rather than passing judgements, make an effort to understand. Don’t be mean, ever. Be a happy camper and celebrate. Understand first, judge last… don’t judge if you can. Honesty is the best policy. There is no reason to lie. You can gain the world with a happy smile. As the proverb says, “There is no time like the present.” Do it now! Don’t wait until tomorrow to do good and to be understanding. Strive to be a better person now. Learn how to value others as much as you value yourself. In the end, we are all in this boat together trying to make solid societal sometimes educational contributions and glorifying God. We might look different but in our core, we are more similar than dissimilar.  We are all part of one race — the human race.

Why judge? Be sure to understand first. This is my motto.

The Secrets of a Great Academic Advisor

The Secrets of a Great Academic Advisor

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Listen to students. Let me repeat it again — Listen to students. If you plan and dream to become an outstanding academic advisor, you must make an effort to listen to what students have to say and want to talk about. The secret to being a great academic advisor is mostly listening and caring. I am not aware of any dedicated college professor who wants to make a difference in college students’ lives yet ignore advising. Be inspiring, be “there” for students, strive to provide the very best academic advising sessions you can possibly deliver to your students. Remember: In the end, education is all about students not you anyways.

In my career as a college professor, I’ve advised over one thousand students and the numbers keep increasing. In my academic advising sessions, I chat with students about classes, jobs, victories, defeats, more jobs and of course… careers. I have to admit that helping kids to succeed has been a great ride for both my advisees and I, that’s for sure. Having placed students in a large number of companies all across the United States has been a blessing to both my students and I. I pray that God keeps blessing me with the necessary enthusiasm and caring abilities that is required for advising college students with distinction. They do deserve our best, every time.

There are a number of ways that you can advise college students these days. In this article, I will share with you three ways that I’ve used, which have resulted in tremendous undergraduate and graduate student success. I do realize that my self-made methods are unorthodox but I promise… they work. Are you ready?

  1. Don’t start your advising in “advising” season. Academic advising doesn’t start in pre-registration.  It starts on day one when you decide to have an open door policy and make an effort to chat with students outside the classroom, sometimes even playing ping pong in the cafeteria informally. The idea that great academic advising is to take 15-20 minutes in mid-semester only is erroneous. What do I mean by that? Sure, creating a schedule for a student regardless of rank shouldn’t take more than 20 minutes per student. However, talking about careers many times can take 30 minutes sometimes longer. The former is precisely why “advising” students throughout the semester should be made a priority if you want to be known as an extraordinary academic advisor. I encourage and recommend that you take academic advising seriously and that you make an extra effort to helping pupils to achieve greatness in this world early on in the semester. One of the ways to accomplishing the former is by taking the initiative and being available.
  2. Make an effort to attend student and athletic events. This is exactly what I’ve said. You need to make sure that students realize that you legitimately care about what they do and what they are involved with. Attending campus events and supporting athletes by attending their home games is a great way to connect with students and attract them to having a longer conversation in your office later in the week. Students do appreciate college professors who they perceive care and are invested in their college life and professional development. It ain’t complicated, ladies and gents. If you think about it, excellence in academic advising is a mix of common sense combined with caring attitudes over and over again. You just have to do it! Listen to me: Make an effort to attend student and athletic events. That’s the right thing to do.
  3. Recruit and mentor a few students every semester. Students love to be mentored. Make sure that every semester you select a few students to work with you in your office. Teach and empower them. I guarantee you that by the end of the academic year, there will be a line of students wanting to be a part of your “advising” or shall we say, “mentoring” program. Empowering students to make decisions and learn one-on-one with a caring academic advisor produces big dividends, e.g., free publicity for the department and many times increases in enrollment. Why don’t we have more faculty-advisee advising experiences and mentoring opportunities in college campuses all throughout the United States ? I honestly don’t get it! We should provide these opportunities to our students. I most definitely do. You should strive to do it, as well.

If you plan and dream to become an outstanding academic advisor, you must make an effort to listen to what students want and have to say. The secret to being a great academic advisor is mostly listening. Do yourself a favor: Don’t start your advising in “advising” season. There is not enough time to do a superb job in advising if your advising starts in April or November. Make an effort to attend student and athletic events. Students do appreciate you making an effort to attend some of their events. Make sure to recruit and mentor a few students every semester. Part of our job as academic advisors is to inspire students. If you are serious about your job and care for your students, recruiting and mentoring students should be part of your operating procedures every semester. That’s what I say.

If You Can’t Inspire, Don’t Be a College Professor.

If You Can’t Inspire, Don’t Be a College Professor.

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You must inspire if your plans are to become a college professor one day. It doesn’t matter whether you plan to work in a public or private college or university, you need to be inspiring and have a lot of patience in order to motivate students to take action on their own and eventually help them to achieve greatness.  A college professor who is unable to inspire his/her students will struggle tremendously in the industry of higher education anywhere in the United States because pupils these days must be constantly energized sometimes stimulated to learn literally every day. Being inspirational isn’t a skill that everyone or every professor has in abundance naturally. However, you can learn to be more inspiring by putting into practice a number of systematic and predictable steps.

There are a number of ways that you can be more inspiring in this life. There are a number of “inspiring systems” out there, of course. In this article, I will share with you three ways that I know will help you to inspire others. It is part of my system of student inspiration — Are you ready to read these tips? You may like them.

  1. Stop thinking that life is about you.  Start yesterday making others the focus of your life. Reject any attempt to consider putting yourself first against the needs and wants of your students. If you decide to put yourself ahead of them, chances are pretty high that you won’t inspire too many of them. I am not aware of any college student who celebrates being second when it comes to important priorities. You must make students first priority period. Stop thinking that life is all about you — It isn’t and won’t ever be. As an educator, life must be about serving others and making students your top priority not the other way around. Listen carefully: Deviating from this norm will cost your college career. Don’t do it.
  2. Do what you can to be available. You can’t inspire effectively if you are not around. There is no reverse to this important rule. As my friend Kyle once said, “Be there or be square.” Are you there or “are you square” for your students? You need to be able to answer this question frequently and honestly. If you choose to not be there for them too often, you might as well just quit your aspirations of being an inspiring professor. Students don’t get inspired by educators who choose to have their office door closed constantly or who chooses to make an excuse to not talk with them when they really need to be seen. Make sure that you are available to your students more often than you feel is required. You will thank me later.
  3. Develop the initiatives that they want, with reason.  Take into account what your students want to do and develop the initiatives that they ask for whenever possible. By engaging in what some of us call “user-design,” or the ability for students (in this case) to develop their own systems of learning, I bet that you will develop superhero skills in influence and inspiration. You will become a very inspiring and popular professor if you empower your students to achieve greatness on their own, if you legitimately delegate responsibilities to them. I have never seen a student who doesn’t appreciate having decision making power after doing this kind of work in ten years. By giving power you gain power and as a value added… You become more inspiring especially if you make an attempt to legitimately empower others. I know, I know… What I am asking you to consider doing is unorthodox and can be quite challenging to many — There is some truth to that but man, this micro system works wonders.

You must inspire if your plans are to become a college professor one day. It doesn’t matter whether you plan to work in a public or private college or university, you need to be inspiring and have a lot of patience in order to motivate students to take action on their own and eventually achieve greatness. What are you doing right now to be more inspiring? Is life all about yourself? Are you available for your students to ask you questions? Are you empowering them to develop their own systems of learning? In order to be inspiring, you will need to do the former. At least, it has been my experience in three public universities and a private school. Stop thinking that life is all about you — It isn’t and won’t ever be. As an educator, life must be about serving others and making them your top priority not the other way around.

What Makes You Great? EQ.

What Makes You Great? EQ.

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I hope you won’t get offended if I tell you that technology use won’t make you or anyone into a great person. In fact, nothing that is technological necessarily has the ability to do the former. No, your smartphone use will not transform you into the next Rockefeller, Washington, or will make you have the heart of civil rights leader John Lewis. It’s just not gonna happen. What can make you move towards achieving greatness in this life is your capacity to be self aware, self regulate, motivate, your ability to develop empathy and communicate socially. Greatness is almost always defined by others so you might as well win them over and treat them right in order to have a good chance of success.

A professional who is incapable of seeing how he/she is behaving towards others is on their way to displaying uncontrolled emotions and consequently losing both credibility and influence within an organization or a particular team. Unless a person is aware of what he/she does, damage occurs which can indeed lead to frustration and in many cases high turn over of both good and bad employees in organizations. By being self aware of your persona, chances are high that you can view yourself more positively and expand your influence beyond a few people. Daniel Goleman and other experts in emotional intelligence (EQ) have proposed the former to be a critical element of success in organizational leadership. I couldn’t concur with Daniel and others more. I wish that behavioral self awareness was the only construct that you needed to master in order to achieve greatness in the workforce. It isn’t the only one.  You also need to be able to do what psychologist John Anderson from Carnegie Mellon University proposes — Self regulation.

College professors and many other professionals are known for displaying bursts of emotions once in a while. Although sharing emotions in public is a normal and expected human behavior, those who are able to control their emotions perform better in the long run as they are able to control their impulses and take responsibility for their decisions. Being able to face reality and self-regulate enhances one’s chances to accept change and develop new ideas, two critical components of success in any industry. The question then becomes — Why isn’t everyone self-regulating more often? Maybe it is because of arrogance or perhaps due to their inability to control their impulses and find ways to justify their decisions without being self aware of their own actions. Self regulation is as critical as self awareness if someone has the goal of becoming great in this life.

If you are not a good mediator, negotiator and motivator, you are in trouble as far as being great in the workforce. Greatness is the cousin of motivation. If you can’t motivate, you can’t improve and consequently can’t meet challenging life goals and truly lead any private establishment or public unit. Are you ready to boost morale for your own sake? You better if you like to have an organization performing beyond its capacity and planned goals and objectives. Remember: Opposition and differences in opinion are likely to occur wherever you work or spend the majority of your time. In 43 years, I haven’t seen too many people out there who can achieve greatness and not be a motivator. Take this seriously and motivate. It is that simple.

Empathy can be understood as ones ability to “see” how others feel and do self analysis on how one’s actions and decisions affects others. Being able to put yourself in the shoes of others is both critical and a gift, I must add. Not everyone was born with the Christian gift of exhortation or was born so naturally gifted in empathy that further EQ training then becomes optional. We all need to develop this important and quite critical skill-set if we are to be truly great in the world. Sometimes you just have to be able to pick up how others feel and be empathetic to them. Listen carefully: One day, you will need others to show empathy towards you to console you. The world goes round and round. Never forget that.

What if I told you that all these former points aren’t good enough until we all develop quite sophisticated social skills? Regardless of the career you choose, you will have to communicate well, especially socially. Great communicators use their social skills to leverage team and conflict management, leadership roles, cooperation. Ones ability to relate to one another, master social rules, both verbally and non-verbally, is the differentiator between those who achieve real greatness or are often stuck in mediocrity, sometimes subpar positions. If your goal is to be great at home, you need to apply these concepts at home. The same can be said if your goal is to be great at work. Is there a way out of this? No, there isn’t. We all need to adhere to these rules as soon as we humanly can and keep practicing and developing them.

I hope you won’t get offended if I tell you that technology use won’t make you or anyone into a great person. Technology is overrated! Human skills are required and necessary. I say, “Work on your organizational behaviors first and foremost.” Develop Emotional Intelligence skills and reflect. Be a source of happiness and sometimes the hero for others. Self Awareness and regulation, motivation, empathy and social skills is what we all need to be great. The alternative is just perishable machinery and propaganda.

When In Doubt, Hire and Retain Talent.

When In Doubt, Hire and Retain Talent.

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In real estate… it’s location, location, location. In the workforce and in sports… it’s recruiting, recruiting, recruiting. If you lead any team that wants to win consistently and achieve greatness, you can’t afford to lose the opportunity to hire the very best. Don’t be fooled to think that hiring mediocrity will take you anywhere in this world because it won’t. If you are undecided who you should hire for any position, make sure you err on the side of talent. Do yourself a favor. Strive to learn more about what makes people have true talent. The former is a science that can be learned simply by engaging in the act of observation and conversation.

In the vast majority of cases, talented individuals tend to think pretty critically pretty often, help you when you need help the most, are able to craft persuasive arguments to advance and protect your unit, and to complement… they actually do the work when you need it done. It is true that talented individuals have their faults like anyone else but their pros numerically outnumber their cons by a fraction of 10 to 1 ratio, at least. Please be aware that talented people tend to be pretty opinionated, bold, and won’t deviate from confrontation. This isn’t to say that talented people expects to always be heard, always wants to defend a strong position, or is living to fighting others. Of course not — The truth is far from the former.  In some instances, talented individuals prefer to express themselves timidly or even act like an introvert.

If talent heads your way… make sure you grab them! What if you already have them in your organization? Make sure you retain them! You never know where they would land next — You don’t want them to join your competition, do you? I don’t know about you but I am from the stance that if you can’t beat someone, I do what I can to have this person on my team. Hire well, retain often, and don’t regret your decisions. Recruiting the very best is a necessity in this competitive market we live in these days. Recruiting and retaining talent can be the difference between winning big or losing, in the literal sense. There are many ways you can hire and retain talent in any organization. In this article,  I will share with you three ways that I bet will help you to hire and/or keep talent in your organization.

  1. Involve them in decision making. The majority of talented people I know have a good salary or make a good living by working for themselves. However, compensation is rarely what motivates them. Their abilities to influence and participate in decision making, directly or indirectly, is meaningful to them. If you want to hire and retain talent, involve them in decision making. I guarantee you that the former will attract them and keep them around. Money won’t.
  2.  Pay them well and accordingly.  Notice that I didn’t say, “Pay them a lot of money.” Like in any industry, if you choose to pay your employees poorly, they will eventually leave. If talented employees receive a poor series of paychecks, chances are high that they will vanish from you when you least expect it. Make sure you compensate talent accordingly and well so that they don’t have a reason to look for alternatives or put their brains into something extraordinary and leave you.
  3. Treat them with respect and kindness. Treating people with respect will defend your company from losing employees, especially talented ones. Share often; Be social and nice whenever possible. A smile goes a long way — A hug is often appreciated. Admire others once in a while for their accomplishments. Celebrate with them and allow them to celebrate you. Honor personal commitments with talented people and give unselfish particular attention once in a while. These are excellent ways to hire and retain both good and talented employees in any organization or industry.

In real estate… it’s location, location, location. In the workforce and in sports… it’s recruiting, recruiting, recruiting. If you lead any team that wants to win consistently and achieve greatness, you can’t afford to lose the opportunity to hire the very best. Please be aware that talented people tend to be pretty opinionated, bold, and won’t deviate from confrontation. Involving talented people in decision making helps to hire and retain them in the long run, along with paying them well and accordingly and treating them with respect and kindness. It isn’t complicated.

Sometimes Less Is More.

Sometimes Less Is More.

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It is easier to start with next to little or nothing in order to be truly great and achieve tremendous success in this life. I didn’t say it is easy but easier… Whenever you have literally nothing to lose and everything to try and gain, a predictable urge to succeed occurs and impetuous behaviors take precedence in your calculated decision making process. Under such guerrilla style circumstances, men or women have a reason to believe in him or herself because the alternative ends in ruin, destruction, or defeat. The great golfer Gary Player is a living example of the self made man who has achieved the pinnacle of success in sports by creating his own way to excellence with next to nothing. Without question: Not having a four time Masters Champion dad with millions of dollars in his banking account has helped Player to craft his own life strategies and training regiments resulting in the one and only, “Gary Player.”

When you have little to no guidance on how to succeed in a particular domain and have a dad who isn’t ultra successful, you can be creative and draw upon your own path to success by observing talent and working smart. The reality is that too many resources and a silver spoon (or golden crate if you were born in Brazil) can be detrimental to a youth’s career progress and achievements. At least, this is what I’ve seen repeatedly: Inheritance and a rich dad often handicaps a large number of talented young men and women as these pupils grow lazy and live a life of leisure due to the extravagant lifestyle that they had their whole lives. In fact, the sons and daughters of wealthy men and women tend to become cowed and often terrified of losing financial face in this world, as Greene would put it. No wonder! This bunch has lived under the shadow of greatness and fine red wine their whole lives. Losing such a privileged position in society can be terrifying even suicidal. After all, who wants to lose prestige and possessions in this vain world that we live in.

There are a number of reasons why the former arguments hold a degree of veracity. In this article, I will present to you three reasons why it is easier to start with little or nothing in order to achieve tremendous success in this life.

  1. When you don’t have anything, you have everything. When you don’t have restrictions in what you can test and try, you will find more than enough space to be creative, make your own world, and achieve greatness. You don’t have to necessarily oppose others in order to deliver an innovative solution. You don’t need to put yourself in the shows of others and limit your contributions by bracketing your available options. You can dream and achieve freely which can be argued to be the pinnacle of freedom and creative thinking. You are free to attain the heights of power and influence. You can do the impossible and share the unpredictable with mobility and strength.
  2. You are more free to change your style. When you don’t have a frame of reference, you can design and develop multiple ones without reprimand. Remember: Over time, one’s inabilities to innovate and adapt tend to result in self destruction and chaos. The act of being truly great isn’t an exact science and it definitely isn’t achieved by static and myopic decision making, planning, and style. Dynamic innovation is the name of the game and always will be. You have to recreate yourself and your strategies once in a while. Napoleon, perhaps the best military general that has ever lived, lost the Battle of Waterloo because his enemies learned his ways. He became too predictable. His opponents learned his moves and were able to corner him and destroy his empire. The same can be said about the great Bismarck and many other great leaders. You need to have continuous originality, as I say. Always innovate if you want to be great in anything.
  3. Underestimating your contributions reduces competition.  Competition is good and required for any capitalist society to function well. I am not against competition. Far from it. In fact, I embrace a good chat with competitors every time I can. It is good for your business or brand to have competitors. There is a lot of evidence to support that. However, having too much competition can be a problem because it might result in market saturation. The fact that some might underestimate your contributions can be quickly turned into a competitive advantage which you can capitalize from. What appears to be a hurtle is in fact an asset. Every time someone underestimates you, you win.

It is easier to start with next to little or nothing in order to be truly great and achieve tremendous success in this life. I didn’t say it is easy but easier. Inheritance and a rich dad often handicaps a large number of talented young men and women as these pupils grow lazy and live a life of leisure due to the extravagant lifestyle that they had their whole lives. It is easier to start with little or nothing in order to achieve tremendous success in this life. When you don’t have anything, you have everything — you win; When you become more free to change your style — you win; When someone underestimates your contributions it reduces competition — you win. It is goofy but it works this way.

Never Let Anyone Mistreat You.

Never Let Anyone Mistreat You.

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In this life, you will eventually be mistreated. Mistreatment might find you by accident, will be initiated by your enemies, sometimes will be revealed by friends, even close friends, co-workers, and often by some of the members of your family. The reason why I am so certain about the former is because most people are egoistic, self-centered and believe that life is all about themselves. Ego plays a large role, if you know what I mean. The bigger someone’s ego is, the higher the levels of mistreatment. It is clear cut.

The moment that people realize that they are at a deficit, be aware, because they will eventually find a way to mistreat you directly or indirectly once, maybe multiples times a week. Be aware: Life is all about them not you. They might celebrate your successes once in a while but in the end, work is about them. Sometimes, you have no option but to leave the environment and let these egocentric maniacs up to their own devices trying to maximize their retirement checks on the shoulders of others. It is an ugly world out there. It happens to us all everywhere. Don’t be judgmental and specific. Stop!

One thing is for sure: Mistreatment is just one of the ways evil people retaliate against others and it can take many forms. Mistreatment is easily observed and felt and can be described systematically. In reality, there are a number of cues associated with grotesque interpersonal mistreatment. People might mistreat you by simply speaking sarcastically towards you, by gossiping against you behind your back to others, and many times by screaming or confronting you head on with mean words, actions, and non-verbal clues. Some even write ALL CAPS WORDS to belittle you.

Micromanaging is a form of mistreatment. Whenever you suspect that spies are sent out there to give intelligence about you to the source, you reached the pinnacle of toxicity and mistreatment in a group, club or organization. Nobody who is truly a Christian, is nice or has any integrity, sends spies out there to gather intelligence on you for self gain. The former is better described by Aristotelian Scholars as manipulative and insecure often incompetent individuals who are often hiding something. It is a learned behavior that is easily displayed and caught. Just because people decide to be quiet about the former doesn’t mean that they don’t know.

Stopping someone from making progress is a well known mistreatment tactic used by individuals with authority to slow talent down. Flooding a unit with unreasonable requests at the last minute is both poor planning and usually a strategy to set people up for failure. Keep this in mind — life is about timing and effort. If you change someone’s timing, many times these changes will be for the worse leading to temporary conquest. No wonder why football coaches often stop decisive games in critical moments in an attempt to disrupt their opponent’s timing leading to error. No matter the form, you will be mistreated in this life. In fact, it isn’t a question of if you will be mistreated. It is a question of when. There are a number of ways you can ensure that you won’t be mistreated long term. In this article, I will share with you three ways to confront mistreatment at the source.

  1. Don’t be political. Be straightforward and firm.  Some people might and probably will assume a lot of things about you and temporarily mistreat you on this basis alone. However, the moment you firmly confront those who mistreat you one-on-one, without being political or being politically correct, mistreatment will flee away from you, you will flee from that person or group of people or both. At that exact moment, you will be able to judge if the mistreatment was a misunderstanding, was an innocent mistake, was mean spirited or an act done by a coward. It is amazing what people revel under stress. Look out for the details and act objectively not emotionally. Don’t be political. You don’t have to. Be straightforward and firm. Be the person who calls the bluff. Give them back a dosage of their own poison. Chances are high that they will think twice before treating you poorly again, at least for a while. Don’t let anyone bully you, ever.
  2.  Create alliances and peripheral support.  As the proverb goes, “The world goes around and around…” If you are being mistreated by a player or a group in a system, chances are high that other members and units belonging to your macro system are also being mistreated as well. The good news is that generalized, or should I say, purposeful systemic mistreatment calls for organized union affiliation. You need to create alliances and peripheral support in order to retaliate back and cause quantifiable damage. Here is the good news: Your opponent grows weaker and weaker when confronting a unified and concentrated force. He/she (or they) will pay a big price for mistreating you because the result of that backfire will cost the coward(s) a high price which often includes his/her (their) reputation. Mistreating others will only result in rash retaliation many times fired by a consortium.
  3. Look for alternatives and leave. There are times when you just have to leave and let others fix their own problems with their own resources. We live in a free and wonderful country that allows us to have choices. Nobody is obligated to stay in any establishment anywhere in the United States if he/she doesn’t want to. I personally don’t believe in quitting any appointment unexpectedly or in bad terms with any organization because life is about building bridges not burning them. The former isn’t to say that you should be married to a bad situation for twenty years or accept unreasonable terms forever. Sometimes, the best and right thing to do is to break affiliation and fulfill the destiny that God has planned for you elsewhere. There is more to life than trying to fix the broken if you break in the process.  Look for alternatives and leave even if you lose some funds in the process. Money comes and goes… You should control your destiny.

In this life, you will eventually be mistreated. The reason why I am so certain about the former is because most people are egoistic, self-centered and believe that life is all about themselves. Mistreatment is easily observed and felt and can be described systematically. The best way to tackle mistreatment is by being proactive.  Don’t be political. Be straightforward and firm. Create alliances and peripheral support. Sometimes, the best thing to do is to look for alternatives and leave. Don’t be afraid to make a big move. I have done a big one before and will do it again if necessary and you should do as well if required. Be a person of principles and stick to what you value and believe. Never let anyone or any group mistreat you. Confront them back accordingly your way.

 

Life Is Short: Do What You Want.

Life Is Short: Do What You Want.

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Life is Short — Do what you want. Do yourself a favor: Don’t complicate:  Instead, simplify. Act with boldness, live your life to the fullest, rock and roll in the process and sing a little along the way if you can. Be the owner of your own destiny. Never, under any circumstance, let others tell you how you should live your life. Remember: you make your decisions not anyone else. Always strive to move forward and don’t move or look back, like a kangaroo or an emu. In this life, you have to follow your dreams and live a life without regrets. Be the pilot of your own destiny.

Do you want to be a musician. Just do it! Are you in your late thirties working as an investment banker contemplating starting a subway franchise or a bed and breakfast business in the south pacific? Don’t think anymore. Make that phone call to corporate and start living your dream of being a sandwich artist entrepreneur. Are you contemplating finishing a college degree in your lifetime, enroll yourself today in a college or university, get your degree and tell the world… “I did it!” Start your dreams today because you never know if there will be a tomorrow.

I have known so many people who are constantly thinking about what others are going to think if they decide to become a ping pong champion. Who cares what others think? What really matters is what you think.  As I’ve said, “Life is Short — Do what you want.” I’ve decided to be a media professor who critiques media once in a while. Odd, isn’t it? Not to me. I kind of like it! Being a critic of technology has been a riot and is something that I don’t plan to stop doing anytime soon. Somebody needs to talk about both the positives and negatives of technology.

I know, I know… sometimes it is tough for people to simply turn on the “who cares” sign and really do what they want to do in this world. In this article, I will share with you three proven ways to be able to live life to the fullest and do what you want.

  1. Be open to losing friends at first. In order to do what you like, you are gonna have to re-define what you mean by friends or friendship and certainly lose many in exchange for doing what you want. When I decided to come to the United States to do what I wanted, I lost a lot of friends… too many. Childhood and club friends; school and gym friends; girlfriends and other friends. You name it! However, by losing them I gained more of them. Maybe a different kind of friend but still. A small tradeoff to be paid to really do what you want. If you are too attached to friends, especially close friends, chances are high that you will do what they want not what you want.
  2. Be open to gaining new friends. This one is a corollary to the former.  The more that you are willing to accept others in your world, the higher the chance you will find someone who will truly accept you for who you are. It is a statistical fact — The more you play, the higher the chance you will eventually win. I am a person who many would consider to be pretty weird. My favorite animal is a Koala. I drive a white VW Passat turbo with a pink kid’s seat in the back and drive golf balls with a Walter Hagen! I am a professor of Mass Communications with a PhD in Instructional Systems and have read more about leadership and marketing than most MBA’s you and I know. I speak Galician fluently and understand a lot of Romanian.  I make new friends easily and constantly because I am open to gaining new friends and replacing old ones when necessary. In order to do what you want, you need to be who you are. Don’t forget that.
  3. Be closed towards others when required.  Negativity must be avoided at all costs if you want to live your life under what I call a “do what you want” philosophy. If someone tries to diminish your accomplishments or tries to make you look small in any way, flee from them. Don’t be emotional about it. Just do it! Remember: Life is short. You know, let me ask you a question. Do you diminish others for personal gain? Do you purposely make others look small so you can appear grande? If you do, shame on you. You shouldn’t. I don’t and never will. I choose to elevate others, instead. If you elevate others, they often elevate you back and reduces the chances you will have to be closed towards others. We are de facto supposed to elevate people not to suppress anyone. Got it?

Life is Short — Do what you want. Do yourself a favor: Don’t complicate:  Instead, simplify. I do admit that living this type of lifestyle is rough and can be quite difficult because letting friends go often is a daunting activity. Who wants to invest in the unknown as a strategy to living a life you want to live. In another words, to do what you want. The irony of the former is by losing you often gain… friends, courage, boldness, action, respect, life. Life is short. Do what you want. Live with no regrets. Don’t complicate. Just do it.

Scatter-Brained, Stressed Out Friend: Not Me and You, Right? You Got It.

Scatter-Brained, Stressed Out Friend: Not Me and You, Right? You Got It.

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One of the secrets to living a great life in our modern technological society is for you to have the ability to balance your on-line versus off-line commitments. There are 8760 hours, 525600 minutes and 31536000 seconds in a year. If you spend 12 hours a day using technology/media devices, by mid-year you would have spent 2190 hours, 131400 minutes, or 7884000 seconds processing information with your only brain. I am not sure about you but I can tell you with certainty that I can’t process a dozen hours a day of media stimuli without repercussions. Not sure about you but I don’t want to experience constant short-term memory dysfunction or display constant scatter-brained behaviors to my family, friends and co-workers.

In all honesty, I don’t think you would benefit from engaging in such digital behavioral choice patterns either because nobody in this race, the human race, can handle to mentally process all this information at once without experiencing a variety of severe cognitive repercussions. Thankfully, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure it out that being on a machine for twelve hours a day isn’t good for anybody. Yet, there are several people across the globe who still believe that they can handle this inhumane technological demand imposed by people. I call the former a result of many today living in what I’ve written — the human robot syndrome; A period where humans behave more like a robot than a human being.

I am not alone in being skeptical about one’s ability to process a dozen hours a day worth of information and be in good health. “Over-use of smartphones and game devices hampers the balanced development of the brain,” according to Dr. Byun Gi-won, a doctor at the Balance Brain Center in Seoul. Thankfully, we have a number of researchers and watch dogs today paying close attention to this very important sociological issue we have in the United States and abroad.

Listen carefully: You need to technomoderate and do what you can to resist consuming too much technology a day. You might be asking, “Okay, but how can I do that?” Here are a few suggestions.

  1. Choose a paper book versus your kindle. You don’t have to read a book on your iPad or kindle. You can still read a book on paperback. Open your book, get a pen, and take notes about what you are reading. Be immersed in your analog book experience when you come home from work. Resist playing a video game, watching hours of television, or gosh forbidden… being on social media for three hours at night. Why are you tying to kill yourself before your time? Don’t do it.
  2. Have an open conversation with you boss face-to-face. Do yourself a favor. Sometime tomorrow, go see your boss’s secretary and ask him/her if you can schedule an appointment with your boss this week or the following. Be open, transparent, and kindly inform your boss about your goal of living a balanced life. Tell him/her that living a life where you exercise your body, mind and soul is important to you and to be able to do the former, you simply can’t work from 9:00am to forever. You are to ask questions, listen but above all follow through with your plan to live a moderate life. In the end, yourself and your boss will thank you. Trust me.
  3. Exercise your body and your brain. Sure, go exercise. Go for a walk, a run, a bike ride, play Marco or Polo or jumprope. Move the great body that the good God has given you! We were made by the creator to live and appreciate nature in this life. Therefore, go outside and appreciate all the nature that surrounds you and celebrate the fact that you are alive tonight. Do an organic self-thinking in the process. Try to memorize non-job related stuff as you enjoy your nightly self-reflections outdoors. I don’t know… maybe you can try to memorize the planets from the sun, the capitals of the world… you decide. Don’t forget this: You never know what will happen to you next day. Appreciate your invaluable moments everyday. Live your lives to the maximum. Carpe Diem! Seize the day. Don’t forget to live your lives extraordinary.

One of the secrets to living a great life in our modern technological society is for you to have the ability to balance your on-line versus off-line commitments. Don’t live a scatter-brained, stressed out life my friend. It isn’t worth it. I’ tried… It sucks. I got sick and burned out. The vicious cycle never ends; it only restarts after rebooting. Be different, be yourself, be in control. Read books on paper; chat with your boos about your plans to control your life; exercise both your body and your brain without technology. Be an agent of change and an example to your children. Be a TechnoModerator! You won’t regret.

 

You Can Do It! Just Be Creative And Dare A Little Bit.

You Can Do It! Just Be Creative And Dare A Little Bit.
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I know that you are probably struggling and questioning this whole idea of having to transform yourself into an extrovert in order to have more influence in social media outlets. Most people would agree that becoming an extrovert isn’t that simple of a task at first. As we discussed in the last blog post, just stop thinking that you are always going to be an introvert is a tough task to accomplish in itself because we are ingrained in a society that promotes the idea that many times things don’t or can’t change. Sometimes and often people fall into the false impression that we have to be confined by our nurtured learned beliefs which only results in putting ourselves into a limited box. Do me a favor right now. Forget the box; don’t think about any box; in fact, think with no box. Just do it now. I will explain it to you later. Being an extrovert is attainable and you are going to be able to do it. By the way, did you register for guitar lessons? Maybe a voice lesson or two? I am paying attention to you and will be asking you sporadic questions like these ones to keep you on your toes.  On another note, did you have a chat with a telemarketer last night to help you with losing inhibition? If you haven’t, make sure to do it tonight. If you have conversed with a telemarketer stranger yesterday, congratulations! You have made a significant attempt to evolve into an extrovert and believe me… you will benefit from being an extrovert. Those traits will be used in your social media campaigns. There are so many other ways in which you can practice to be an extrovert on-line. Today, we are going to talk about three more ways in which you can expand your ability to develop this timely social skill that we call extroversion.

  1. Remember your prior commitments. Let’s start with this one. This series of blog postings are a cumulative effort to help you with becoming an extrovert and dominating the social media realm. Question: Are you still thinking that you will be an introvert forever? Did you really stop by that music store near your house or on-line? If not, maybe you need to call that buddy of yours who is musically inclined in order to help you to buy a six string. Why a six? I don’t know… The Mishnah contains six sections, you can buy a six pack, there are six features in a person’s face, there are six vertices on a hexagram, six is the top number on a dice. I don’t know but make sure you buy your six strings yesterday. You need to start jamming in order to break away from the old you. Before I forget, make sure you engage in a conversation with a telemarketer or two tonight.
  2. Go to the bank and ask for the manager. Give yourself a chance to speak with a local commercial bank manager and start developing your interpersonal skills. Why do you need to speak with a banker? For six main reasons: Bankers help people in moments of crisis; they are able to persuade others;  they tend to be good negotiators, they are good at outmaneuvering people, they like to win and they are available.  You can learn a lot from them and the cost to speak with them is literally zero. Your return over investment after speaking with a banker is extraordinarily high. If successful meaningful conversations with a banker, one-on-one, were a bet category in Vegas, the odds of success of such pursuits would be 1 to 1 success on the side of the introvert. Making long story short, go speak with a banker today or tomorrow.
  3. Work for a week as a dishwasher. Why a week? Because it has one hundred and sixty eight hours or ten thousand and eighty minutes that you can spend with someone chatting for long periods of time. When I was an English as a Second Language (ESL) student, I did just that. You will be amazed how much you will talk and chat with a complete stranger during this time. What I came to learn and realize from my experience, being a dishwasher for a week, was that it is literally impossible for these underrated cleaning professionals to spend eight hours a day without speaking a single word. Do yourself a favor: Put your pride aside, go to a local kitchen and volunteer your time to serve as a food cleaning professional. This experience will change the way you communicate.

I know that you are probably struggling and questioning this whole idea of having to transform yourself into an extrovert in order to have more influence in social media outlets. How can anyone ask and remind you that you need to start playing the guitar and singing, talking with bankers and joining a dishwasher team in order to be more successful in social media. Let me help you with better understanding these series of requests. Think of Mr. Myagi. Do you remember wax on, wax off… I am him guiding you through this difficult yet critical process to transform you into a black belt of social media.  Trust your trainer and start doing. I will check with you again on the flip side tomorrow!

Re-Create Yourself Once In A While.

Re-Create Yourself Once In A While.

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There is a lot of value in recreating yourself once in a while. IBM in 1984 was a much different company than it is today. Steve Martin became a dad when he was 67 years old. Betty White wasn’t a well known person by the public until she was fifty one years of age. Arnold Schwarzenegger was a body builder, then he became a widely known actor, served as a politician and is now a philanthropist. You need to champion the need to innovate and control your destiny by not allowing others to define who you are. This doesn’t mean that you should be mean, treat others with disrespect, turn yourself blue when common sense calls you to be yellow or dreaming of becoming a rockstar without having any talent for music and how to act and react in the entertainment industry. Don’t get me wrong — engaging in creative and continuous self-analysis and advancement isn’t an easy task but is one that is of paramount importance. In 2o17, we all need to be able to maneuver in order to gain or shift terrain and advance our own careers and life campaigns. In many instances, the former requires that we recreate ourselves. Every seven years, our body cells change allowing us to recreate ourselves in the literal sense. Perhaps, the good God has created us that way biologically so that we eventually learn to think about ourselves in terms of re-creation. In reality, there are a number of ways in which you can re-create yourself.  In this article, I will share with you three ways in which you can re-create yourself and advance or change your career or life focus as an outcome.

  1. Be a source of pleasure. No matter which career you are in or want to pursue, don’t be grumpy, melancholic, egoistic or egocentric, self-centered, or arrogant. Be the type of person you and your friends want to be around with. You don’t need to force your new image on others, either. Be a source of pleasure and celebrate creating harmony by making others to celebrate themselves.  Eventually, others will invite you in their circles and will legitimately enjoy being around you for the right reasons not because of  your position or authority. I see too many people today failing to re-create themselves into someone better because of a false belief that they need to stick to their century long traditions. Their stagnation is eminent; Loss of talent is predictable; lack of self-innovation and brand depreciation is likely.
  2. Question your assumptions once in a while. Be careful when making lifetime assumptions because when you assume, you make an… you know how the saying goes. Things change, life evolves, and people learn lessons. Not always but you know what I mean. In the spirit of wanting to recreate your image and questioning some of your lifelong goals and objectives, you have to be open minded to the possibilities that might head your way. One of the ways to accomplish the former is by questioning what you may think is untouchable to you. If I was so defensive about ever changing my upbringing instilled ideologies from childhood, I would have never turned into a college professor of any kind. In the country club culture in which I was born and raised in, becoming a college professor was seen as the ultimate sign of failure only after lacking a formal college education. I knew then and certainly know now, however, that the truth is far from what I was once told when growing up among the ultra wealthy elite society  but it took me “questioning my assumptions” in order to be able to see life as it is. Many today live their lives in a world of fantasy and make believe because of their inability to question their own circumstances, values and inherited biases. There is tremendous power in re-evaluating what you believe, feel, and care about. This doesn’t mean that you should be mean, treat others with disrespect, turn yourself blue when common sense calls you to be yellow, or totally ignore your history for the sake of change and advancement. Common sense plays a variable in the transition, of course.
  3.  Seek, investigate and council once in a while.  The bible teaches us in Matthew 7:7, “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.” Proverbs 12:15 states, “The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice.” Just don’t forget that investigating and seeking counseling with the right people for each occasion is also a variable if you are seeking to re-create yourself for the better. When becoming your new you or re-creating your old self, eventually you will need to find your “future you” which quite often isn’t found by you because we are creatures of habit. Plans are established by council as it is written in Proverbs 20:18. Don’t forget that.  Question — Are you doing God’s will? Let me ask you differently, “Are you working with your godly gift so you can glorify Him and help others?” Most folks aren’t… at least it has been my observations. GOOD! It may be time for you to recreate yourself! We all have received a gift from God. Every single one of us we did regardless of color, creed, nationality… The gift of exhortation calls believers to become great counselors/advisers maybe teachers. Are you in the construction business when you should be in counseling?  Are you disorganized yet you wish to manage operations but possess the gift of piety? Maybe you belong somewhere in the devotional business. Some have the gift of love or prophecy yet they choose to ignore their calling because of family tradition and fear of change or shall we say boldly, “to recreate themselves” using the gifts that the good God has given to them.

It is impossible to control anybody’s destiny or image despite the many attempts made by many in our society. People can be temporarily conquered but long-term control is only achieved if the mind or shall we say people’s hearts allow it to happen. Re-creating yourself once in a while is perhaps the only mechanism you can use to keep yourself and others in line when living this arduous journey we call life. There is a lot of value in recreating yourself once in a while. The act of recreation gives you hope, can energize your persona and give you life strength. No wonder why retirees tend to live longer when they re-create themselves and keep a steady line of work after officially declaring,  “I am a retiree.” You need to champion the need to innovate and control your destiny by not allowing others to define who you are always seeking ways to do God’s will. Be a source of pleasure, question your assumptions once in a while, seek, investigate and council with a wide variety of people and constituents. Life evolves and we need to be fully aware of that. We have to re-create ourselves one in a while. It is a must. It is good for you and it is good for me. It is good for us all.

Build Long Lasting Relationships: What To Look For.

Build Long Lasting Relationships: What To Look For.

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As it is played in Disneyland, “It is a small world after all.” The relationships we build, the friendships we make, the conversations we cultivate and the sacrifices we endure aren’t be be taken with a grain a salt by a true friend. A person who is truly genuine, is on your side and wants to maintain a great relationship with you don’t treat you like a subordinate, will never do anything to jeopardize your trust, will do what he/she can to honor your reasonable requests and are likely to ask you to go to lunch once in a while. Avoidance, extra protocols and procedures, ultra selective and divisive associations, left hand complements and gossip are true signs of someone who is egoistic and probably afraid or intimidated by you. It is even possible that folks displaying such behaviors are simply in the state of denial and are finding ways to justify their incompetence and appear adequate. Behaviors and actions will always speak louder than words, regardless of what folks may think or believe. We all have relationships in church, with family, at work, and also with our children and spouse. In all of the former, we need to cultivate great relationships and avoid destroying them but is better to have no close times with someone than associate yourself with the wrong crowd. As colleague of mine once said, “Many judge others by the people they associate themselves with.” There is truth to this former statement. My grandfather used to say the same thing.  The bible states in 1 Corinthians 15:33, “Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.” It seems that God wants us to flee from bad company, right? It seems clear cut to me. There are a number of ways we can guide folks to build better relationships in many areas of our lives. In this article, I will share with you three ways in which you can build more solid and long lasting relationships with a spin of Christianity.

  1. Choose good company because the alternative corrupts character. The Bible says in1 Corinthians 15:33 Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.” In order to build relationships that last, you need to choose good company first. It is a pre-requisite that must be followed. There is no reversal to this rule. The tricky part of deciphering who is good or bad company. Individuals who provide good council are great ones to associate yourself with. Typically these folks are unselfish and have an encouraging heart. They tend to be reasonable and understanding of a wide variety of circunstances. You will know when someone is a great advisor and had the gift of exhortation because hate isn’t part of their nature. These folks tend to be great company and worth of your time.
  2. If they don’t spend time with you, flee from them. Relationships are all about commitment. You need to choose carefully and pay attention to details. A dedicated ally won’t let you hanging in there and are likely to seek rather than be seek for a conversation. If someone wants to have a great relationship with you, sooner or later… they will extend an invitation for you and your family to go to lunch with them or to join their church or civic groups. They will  introduce you to people they know publicly and eventually will ask you to go to their house as guest for supper. If you request a meeting one-on-one with a person and this person chooses to have a group meeting instead you know that his/her priorities aren’t you but him or herself. Remember: If they don’t spend time with you, flee from them.
  3. Be loyal and test for consistency. If you find inconsistencies in your relationships, e.g., “Hey Almeidas! Nice seeking you here today.” and then in a public event the same couple who told you the former ignores you… You might as well say goodbye to having a long lasting relationship with them.  If a person is really on your side and desires to keep a great and open relationship with you, they will not betray you in any way. Make sure you spend some time “testing spirits” as the bible teaches us. Which disloyalty can you clearly see and observe? Are there any inconsistencies that include you specifically? Let me give you an example. I am a member of a local civic club. In a number of occasions, Jackie — one of our senior club members, was very kind and open to a great chat with me during our weekly meetings seeming excited that I was a college professor in a public university. However, in another yet more selective event we both attended, where being a public school professor wasn’t seen as prestigious, this same person who was so chatty and nice totally ignored me due to fear of retaliation, I bet. Being associated, in that event, with a public school professor wasn’t sophisticated enough for her to maintain her appearances. Only if she knew that I had a working and close relationship with the president of that organization she was trying to build connections with. Moral of the story:  Be loyal and test for consistency, always.

As it is played in Disneyland, “It is a small world after all.” Sooner or later, people will discover who you truly are by the relationships you have and by your actions and reactions. Make sure to choose good company and that your company wants to have yourself in their company. Otherwise, you might need to develop relationships with other company. Test your relationships with a dose of loyalty and consistency. In order to build a long lasting relationship with someone, you must make sure that they are indeed on your side on a consistent basis. Otherwise: Be aware.  Remember: Behaviors and actions will always speak louder than words, regardless of what folks may think or believe.