No matter your age, where you come from, which high school you have attended or the college that you have received your degree from, if you are a real man… you must be a gentleman. The reason why I am so firm on the former is because God calls us to be one. The bible says in 1 Peter 3:15, “But in your hearts honor Christ the Lord as holy, always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and respect.” Clearly, we must do what we can to emulate the teachings of Christ and be gentle to one another. In this blog post, I will briefly share with you how a man can be more like a gentleman in three ways. Here we go.
1. By listening: A gentleman knows how to listen and understands that listening is an important trait of a real gentleman. There is no reverse to this one. In order for any man to be a gentleman, he must listen. Being a good listener means not interrupting others when others are speaking, actually listening to what others have to say, and considering alternatives solutions if the alternatives received are better than the existing ones. A true gentleman strives to make decisions that take into account the voices of his or team. A gentleman also understands that listening is a skill that can be mastered.
2. A gentleman does not spread rumors, I mean never: Under no circumstances does a gentleman engage in this kind of behavior because he knows that 10/10 times, these rumors cause hardships on others and eventually the other party finds out about the unfortunate event which can haunt them in the future. Only a boor engages in such behaviors. Schmucks love to talk about others behind their backs because they have nothing better to say or anything important to do. A true gentleman doesn’t put himself in the position of being a vermin. When asked to feed a rumor mill, a gentleman says no without remorse.
3. A gentleman is humble and realizes that he doesn’t know everything: Because a gentleman knows that he doesn’t know everything and that the opinions of others are to be respected, he asks for other people’s opinions and balances his own thoughts and ideas with facts. He doesn’t take other people’s opinions as his own necessarily but he is open minded enough to hear what others have to say. A gentleman doesn’t need to act like an “I known it all” person because he knows that nobody knows everything and because the former is a quite impolite, arrogant practice. A gentleman would rather be quiet than to confront left-hand contributions, unless these are reoccurring/repeated events.
No matter how old you are, where you come from, which high school you have attended or the college you have received your degree from, if you are a real man… you must be a gentleman. Gentlemen are trained to listen, to not spread rumors, and to ask the opinion of others in oder to made the best decisions. Being a gentleman should be a lifelong goal for any man who labels himself to be a person of character. It is important to be a gentleman fellow men.
You must be a gentleman if you are a man.