Conversations First, Social Media Second

Sherry Turtle once said, “I’m not anti-technology. I’m pro conversation.” I agree with her very often. We are creatures of habit who make sense of the world by living in community. The act of speaking and engaging with a fellow human being, AKA having conversations, is something that cannot be taken for granted even though too many people are ignoring the act. We were born to live in community, experience the human heat and speak with others for survival for thousands of years.

I see hundreds today choosing to start conversations with people in social media networks first with the hope that these interactions will lead to more friendships and therefore conversations. I don’t like this approach.  Let me say this differently. I don’t think it will work.

Why complicate if you can simplify? Start your conversations off-line.

I like meaningful conversations, off-line and on-line. What I’ve come to observe is that having conversations off-line first helps us to engage with our friends and acquaintances off-line better. Go figure! Human beings tend to speak with others when they establish boundaries and rapport first. We may live in a modern world where social media communication is a reality. I beg to differ that on-line communication, by itself, will generate great conversations off-line in mass by many.

Despite the many avenues we have these days to communicate with friends and strangers on facebook, instagram, peach… the secret to having great conversations off-line and on-line, is is to start the conversation off-line. So I say, “Conversations First, Social Media Second.”

If your goal is to build relationships and have meaningful conversations…